In this Issue:
Staff Snippet: March4Equality
East Bay Bowl-O-Rama
1-2-3 Magic Parenting Series
Oakland Unified LGBT Family Dinner & Date Night
Community Day at the Aquarium of the Bay SF
Trans Parent Panel
Friends, Family, or Stranger?
Ongoing Groups
Community Events
Community Announcements
In the News & Media

Staff Snippet: March4Equality!

Dear Families & Supporters,
OFC joined over 3000 people (including many families!) at San Francisco’s March4Equality last week. Starting  in the Castro, we marched in solidarity while chanting, dancing, and  showing the world that love is love. There was so much excitement we  could barely hold the camera still! At the rally in front of city hall,  OFC supporters, young and old, shared their stories and hopes that the  Supreme Court will make the right decision. This is just the beginning,  and OFC will be there with you every step of the way leading to the  decision, (eventual) celebration of marriage equality, and “walking the  walk” as we create a more inclusive world for all of our families.
Much love, Your OFC Staff



Join us for an inspiring  celebration of Our Family Coalition’s work to create a more equitable  world for LGBTQ headed families. This exciting event will include  cocktails and wine, silent auction, and a delicious sit-down dinner.   When: Thursday, April 11, 2013, from 6-9 pm Where: InterContinental Hotel, 888 Howard St., San Francisco

Individual tickets are $150 to this adults only event with sponsorship opportunities starting at $250.

East Bay Bowl-O-Rama

Dust off those bowling balls and shoes. It’s time for our second LGBTQ Family bowling outing in the East Bay! This event is great for the whole family, especially children ages 7 and up.
Come out and join us for some family fun!!!


When: Sunday, April 14, 3-5pm Where: Albany Bowl, 540 San Pablo Ave., Albany

Register: Click Here!


1-2-3 Magic Parenting Series

1-2-3-Magic is a program that offers parenting solutions for difficult behaviors, incorporating positive discipline techniques that have helped millions of families worldwide. This simple, yet powerful approach to disciplining kids has won rave reviews from parents, educators and professionals.  Facilitated by Shoshana Rosenberg.


When: Wednesdays, April 10, 17, 24, May 1, 8, 15, 22, 29, 6-8pm Where: OFC Office, 1385 Mission St. Ste. 340, San Francisco

Register: Click Here!

Oakland Unified LGBT Family Dinner & Date Night
Join Our Family Coalition for dinner with your family, and then drop   your kids off for a movie while you enjoy a date night.  Please contact   us 510-473-7104 and let us know you will attend.When: Friday, April 19th. 6pm to 8pm Where: Acorn Woodland Elementary, 1025 81st Ave., Oakland

Community Day at the Aquarium of the Bay SF

Come join LGBTQ families at the Aquarium of the Bay for a day of fun!  Get up close and personal with more than 20,000 local marine animals.  Limited space, registration required for free tickets.  Children under age three do NOT need a ticket.


When: Sunday, April 28, 11am Where: Aquarium of the Bay, The Embarcadero at Beach St., San Francisco

Register: Click Here!

Trans Parent Panel

Participate and make your voice heard at this compelling discussion with transgender parents, their families, and allies. Parents, prospective parents and LGBTQ community members are welcome to join us to hear from transgender parents, a legal expert, a partner of a transgender parent, and children of transgender parents who will share their knowledge and personal stories at this not-to-be-missed event!


When: Tuesday, April 30, 6-7:30pm Where: SF LGBT Community Center, 1800 Market St., San Francisco

Register: Click Here!

Friends, Family, or Stranger?

More and more donor-conceived individuals and families are choosing to make connections with others who share their donor. Whether you are considering making these connections or have already done so, join us to talk about experiences, hopes, expectations, motivations, language, and logistics. Panel will include Alice Ruby, Executive Director, The Sperm Bank of California.


When: Tuesday, April 30, 6-8pm Where: Bananas, 5232 Claremont Ave., Oakland

Register: Click Here!

Ongoing Groups
Habitot Kids Painting

Mamas & Papas East Bay: Families with Children Ages 0-5
Expand your circle of LGBTQ parents and explore concerns and tips shared by all parents as well as those of special interest to our families. Help your kids build friendships with other children from LGBTQ families. Keep your infants with you while all other kids play in Habitot Children’s Museum. Dinner will be provided for children only. Suggested donation of $10 per adult, no one turned away for lack of funds.
Registration:  Click Here! 
When: Every 1st Wednesday, April 3, 5:30-7:30pm
Where: Habitot Children’s Museum, 2065 Kittredge St., Berkeley
QPlay Peninsula: All Ages Daytime Drop in Playgroup


Home   during the day with the kids? Feeling a little isolated? Come to  San   Mateo and join other LGBTQ parents for an informal hour of grown up    conversation and playtime for the kids. Share your stories and browse    the shelves. Tea and snacks available.

Registration: Click Here! When: Every 1st Friday, April 5, 11am-12:30pm Where: Reach & Teach,                                                 178 South Blvd., San Mateo
Peninsula LGBTQ Parent Coffee Talk
Come join other LGBTQ parents and their children for a relaxing time sharing resources and getting to know one another.  Each month will have a topic to kick start the conversations.
Registration: Click Here! When: Every 2nd Sunday, April 14, 3-5pm Where: Backyard Coffee Co., 965 Brewster Ave., Redwood City

Prospective Parents Group


Are you a prospective parent? If so, this is the perfect opportunity to meet and network with other LGBTQ prospective parents. This is a potluck, so remember to bring your favorite dish to share. OFC  will bring material on resources and agencies that can help on your road  to parenthood. Potluck from 6:30-7pm, discussion from 7-8pm.
Registration: Click Here! When: Every 2nd Wednesday, April 10, 6:30-8pm Where: OFC Office, 1385 Mission St., Ste. 340, San Francisco
Transgender Parents Group
Are you or your partner a transgender parent? Or thinking about  transbecoming a parent? The Transgender Parent Support Group is an  opportunity to connect with your peers and get mutual support.  The  group will meet every third Saturday of each month. The first half hour  will be spent socializing, with  the remaining time dedicated to group discussion. Drop-ins are welcome,  but ongoing attendance helps to establish group rapport.
Registration: Click Here!
When:  Every 3rd Saturday, April 20, 10am-12pm Where: SF LGBT Center, 1800 Market St., San Francisco
Mamas & Papas With Children 7-12 (Revamped Group!) 
OFC  and Eureka Valley Recreation Center are partnering up to provide an  interactive and fun program for kids of LGBTQ Parents ages 7-12. The  parents can drop off their kids at EVRC where staff from both  organizations will do some ice breakers, fun games, and rec sports.  Parents are encouraged to head to a nearby cafe to socialize, catch up, and  discuss anything that is on their minds. Child care for children ages 6  and under will be provided at Eureka Valley Recreation Center by the SF  LGBT Community Center Kid Space staff. Come expand your circle of LGBTQ  Parents and help your kids build friendships with other children with  LGBTQ Families.
Registration: Click Here! When: Every 3rd Wednesday, April 17, 6-7:30pm Where: Eureka Valley Recreation Center, 100 Collingwood St., San Francisco
Mamas & Papas SF: Families with Children Ages 0-6
New families are always welcome! Expand your circle of LGBTQ parents and explore concerns and tips shared by all parents as well as those of special interest to our families. Help your kids build friendships with other children from LGBTQ families.
Registration: Click Here!
When: Every 4th Saturday, April 27, 10-11:30am
Where: SF LGBT Community Center, 1800 Market St., San Francisco

Community Events

7- Session Facilitated Support Group For Parents of Adopted and Fostered Tweens & Tweens of Color
Join adult adoptee, Katie Wynen, and adoptive parent, Marsha Hiller, for discussion and support with other parents of adopted children of color.  Parents will be given the opportunity to share their experiences while participating in an informally structured group model that explores topics of interest to all of the participants.  Adolescence is always a volatile, vulnerable time, and it can be especially so for adopted children of color and their parents. Each group session offers parents and caregivers the opportunity to explore their feelings about their current parenting challenges in a safe and nurturing setting, with a focus on developmentally appropriate approaches to their children’s issues and the new struggles that come to light when children begin the challenging process of becoming young adults.
We will employ an interactive approach that includes experiential exercises in a psycho-educational setting.
When: April 4, April 11, April 18, May 2, May 9, May 23, May 30, 7-8:30pm Location: North Berkeley  (Directions emailed after registration) Registration: Click Here!
Colla Voce Presents “Coming Out, Coming Home”
Colla Voce announces its next concert to benefit the Asian and Pacific Islander Family Pride to raise funds for their educational film project “Coming Out, Coming Home”. This concert will focus on songs dealing with the issues and feelings LGBT people face when coming out to their families, featuring songs by gay composer Robert Seeley with a mix of songs from Broadway and classical genres that will make this concert enlightening and entertaining.
When: Saturday, April 6, 4-6pm Where: St. Adain’s Episcopal Church, 101 Gold Mine Dr., San Francisco Tickets: Click Here!


National Day of Action for Comprehensive Immigration Reform


Join us for a rally and march to push for humane equitable, and inclusive immigration reform!  Click here for the Facebook event and for more information.


When: Wednesday, April 10, 3pm March, 5pm Rally

Where: March starts at 1 Post St., San Francisco, Rally at 450 Golden Gate St.


“Castro Dads”: A Group for Gay Dads in the SF Bay Area


Our  Family Coalition is supporting a social networking group for gay dads  (and gay men thinking/wanting to become a dad) in and around San  Francisco.
When: Last Tuesday of the month, 5:30-7:30pm
Where: Squat and Gobble, 3600 16th St., San Francisco


Community Announcements

Interested in Learning How to Effectively Speak to the Media?


Our Family Coalition is scheduling a 1-hour “How to Talk to the Media” training focused on the Comprehensive Immigration Reform. The idea  is to get people comfortable with the topic so we can better support families/parents/educators who may get media calls. We will also learn how to effectively speak to the plight of our immigrant families. Topics of conversation and activities include:

  • How to advance positive, pro-immigrant frames and messages
  • Preparing and practicing your soundbite
  • How to manage interviews and respond to tough questions
  • Practicing for interviews

Please contact policy@ourfamily.org if you are interested!


Seeking Participants for Research of the Reflection of Children of LGBTQ Headed Families on Social StigmaGreetings! I am a doctoral student in clinical psychology at Argosy University seeking participants for my study (IRB Protocol #769), which is designed to investigate the perspectives of children of gay and lesbian parents on socially stigmatizing experiences.  I am passionate about concerns affecting youth, particularly those of marginalized groups, and I hope to make a valuable contribution to the growing research in this area. For a view of my advertising flier please go to www.pitsavas.com/crp. If you are interested in participating in this project, please contact me at (773) 294 – 2407 or via email at npitsavas.crp@gmail.com.   Kind regards, Nicole Pitsavas, M.A.


In the News & Media

Why I Support Same Sex Marriage as a Civil Right, But Not as a Strategy to Achieve Structural Change: The pending Supreme Court decisions concerning the constitutionality of California Proposition 8 and the Defense of Marriage Act have pushed discussion of same-sex marriage into the mainstream of the news cycle, with many civil rights advocates convinced that regardless of the court’s decision, eventual victory is a done deal. I don’t disagree. I’ve also argued in support of same sex marriage rights. However, I have some serious worries about the broad implications of this victory.
Gay Rights Are Not Queer Liberation: I came out as bisexual when I was 16. And although I had a girlfriend who I had very serious 16-year-old feelings about, my coming out always came with a qualifier. “I’m bi – I love my girlfriend, but eventually, I want to be with a man. I want to marry a man and have a house and have children and put them in that house.” When I was 18, I realized I was gay, and suddenly not only was the thought that I wanted to be with a man untrue, the idea that I could ever be married seemed completely impossible. This was in 2008. In 2008, I thought that, by being gay I had nonconsensually committed myself to a life off the grid, a life that would never be recognized or respected, a quiet life of commitment ceremonies in the woods, Birkenstocks, the inescapable word “partner” instead of “husband” and a lifetime’s supply of closet doors.
How Gay Marriage Won: Eager to be eyewitnesses to history, people camped for days in the dismal cold, shivering in the slanting shadow of the Capitol dome, to claim tickets for the Supreme Court’s historic oral arguments on same-sex marriage. Some hoped that the Justices would extend marriage rights; others prayed that they would not. When at last the doors of the white marble temple swung open on March 26 for the first of two sessions devoted to the subject, the lucky ones found seats in time to hear Justice Anthony Kennedy – author of two important earlier decisions in favor of gay rights and likely a key vote this time as well – turn the tables on the attorney defending the traditionalist view.LGBTs, Allies Unite on Immigration Reform: While the national conversation around comprehensive immigration reform continues, the undocumented LGBTQ community grows more visible as the link between immigration and LGBTQ rights continues to be emphasized by activist groups across the country.
Meet Devon And Emily’s Family: As part of our Family Friday series, every week we spotlight one family, share the story of their love and send lots of love and support to them from our own huge family all over the world.
Growing Up with Gay Parents:  This week, the Supreme Court will hear two cases on same-sex marriage: Hollingsworth v. Perry, the case will determine the constitutionality of California’s Proposition 8, and United States v. Windsor, the case that will decide the constitutionality of the Defense of Marriage Act, also known as DOMA.
We Are Family: “Family support is foundational to our military identity,” said Smith. “Many service members in the room lived with secret families during the days of the ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ policy. I was one of those soldiers.
LGBT Families Should Be Included in Immigration Reform, Latino Voters Say: A majority of Hispanic voters strongly support immigration reform legislation that includes lesbian and gay binational couples, according to a new Latino Decisions/Immigration Equality poll.  Sixty-four percent of Latinos think that citizens who are lesbian or gay should also have the right to sponsor their partner for residency. This support crossed different religions, with 71 percent of Catholics and 53 percent of born-Again Christians supporting an inclusive immigration reform bill.  This included both U.S.-born (63 percent) and foreign-born (65 percent) Latino voters.
Apparently My Marriage Isn’t Real Either: This has been an exciting week for equality. On Tuesday I was right there with everyone else, listening to the tapes and wishing all kinds of imaginary ills on Justice Antonin Scalia. What struck me more than anything else was the lawyer defending Prop 8, Charles Cooper,insisting that the ability to create children made heterosexual marriage legitimate and homosexual marriage downright wrong.
No Loo for You: Not Just a Trans Issue!: The proposed bill in Arizona that would allow businesses to deny restroom entry to anyone suspected of being transgender — or if they just don’t like how masculine or feminine you are — is yet another illustration of how important it is for the gay, lesbian and bisexual community to stand in solidarity with our transgender brothers and sisters.
“Voice of the children” – Proposition 8 and LGBT Families: For Kristin M. Perry and Sandra B. Stier, the schools their children have attended have been one more place to be involved parents and a visible same-sex couple. “I have been a PTA president and I volunteered in the classroom all the time,” said Ms. Perry, who noted that the family of two lesbian mothers and four boys ages 18 to 24 has had mostly positive experiences in the liberal enclave of Berkeley, Calif.
San Francisco Transgender Community Reports Uptick in Targeted Violence:  Recent reports involving attacks against transgender people in the Mission district have community leaders searching for ways to protect the vulnerable group. EL/LA, a Mission-based organization for transgender women, has heard of at least four major incidents since January, including a date rape and a vicious assault in front of a bar, office coordinator Susana Caceres said Wednesday.
Fortune 500 Companies Tell “Gang of Eight” Excluding Same-Sex Couples From Immigration Reform Is Bad For Business:  Almost 30 Fortune 500 companies are urging the Senate’s “Gang of Eight” to include benefits for gay and lesbian couples in any potential immigration reform package, telling the bipartisan group of senators that splitting binational families apart is not only immoral, but bad for business.
Sen. Rob Portman Comes Out in Favor of Gay Marriage After Son Comes Out As Gay: Republican U.S. Sen. Rob Portman on Thursday announced he has reversed his longtime opposition to same-sex marriage after reconsidering the issue because his 21-year-old son, Will, is gay. Portman said his son, a junior at Yale University, told him and his wife, Jane, that he’s gay and “it was not a choice, it was who he is and that he had been that way since he could remember.”

Our Family Coalition promotes the equality and well-being  of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer families with  children. We foster community leadership in advocacy efforts that  promote social justice. 

Headquarters: 1385 Mission St., Ste. 340, San Francisco, CA 94103

East Bay Office: 401 Grand Ave., Ste. 400, Oakland, CA 94610

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