In this Issue:
Staff Snippet: Youth in Focus
Youth Leadership and Empowerment Series
We’re Hiring!
We’re also Under Construction!
All You Can Eat Pancake Breakfast Fundraiser
Financial Literacy for LGBTQ Families
Colors of our Family: LGBTQ Transracial Adoption Series
Introduction to Conception Options
Spring Fling Dance
A Celebration of the Life of Bayard Rustin.
Second Parent and Domestic Partner Adoption
Save the Date & Support NIGHT OUT 2013!
Ongoing Groups
Community Events
Community Announcements
In the News & Media

Staff Snippet: Youth in Focus
Dear Families & Supporters,
Our  kids are growing up, and so is Our Family Coalition. With this in mind  we have made a commitment to provide more events, series,  and educational workshops that appeal to our youth ages 7-12. We are making these  programs fun, interactive, with a hint of leadership development built  with an intersectional and social justice focus.
We  realize that having a safe space to grow and connect with other young  folks who have LGBTQ Families is important. Look out for more programs geared up for youth ages 7-12 in the upcoming months!
We  also appreciate feedback (parents and youth!) about what kind of  programs you would like to see in the coming  months, so please let us know by replying to this email or e-mailing mark@ourfamily.org.
Thank you!
Sincerely, Mark Yanez

Youth Leadership and Empowerment


This practical skill building series will bring youth together in a  unique space where they can connect, grow as individuals, and have fun.  Youth ages 7-11 will learn what it means to be assertive when faced with  bullying, find out what being an ally means, and be able to build a  toolbox of skills to take home with them. Whether it’s finding an  expressive voice, moving around to keep energized, or using the art of  play, the youth involved are sure to be both active and engaged!  Recommended for ages 7-11.  Facilitated by Mark Yanez.Attendees are encouraged to attend all three workshops in the series.


When: Sunday, March 3, 10 & 17, 3-5pm Where: OFC Office, 1385 Mission St., Ste. 340, San Francisco

Register: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3


We’re Hiring!


The Program Director oversees and manages our family support programming throughout the San Francisco Bay Area.
The Education Coordinator will assists works on our Welcoming and Inclusive Schools Program.
Both are  full time position with fully paid health care and dental premiums for the employee and minor dependents.  Please click on the position title to download the announcement. 

We’re also Under Construction!


Hello Families!  We’ve recently switched over to a new calendar and event registration system, and we’re still working through the kinks.  Thank you so much for your patience, and if you have any trouble or suggestions, please let us know by e-mailing webmaster@ourfamily.org.  Thanks! 


All You Can Eat Pancake Breakfast Fundraiser

Our lovely friends at Sweet Inspirations Bakery Cafe are hosting 2 pancake breakfasts to support OFC!  You’ll get a serving of ham, sausage, or bacon in addition to all you can eat pancakes.  The price is $10 for adults and $6 for kids.  Come enjoy a delicious breakfast, good company, and support OFC’s work.When: Sunday, March 3 & 10, 8am-1pm Where: Sweet Inspirations Bakery Cafe, 2239 Market Street, San Francisco


Financial Literacy for LGBTQ Families


A nights of games and activities for the whole family. Bring the kids! Have fun while learning about saving, setting financial goals, and managing monthly expenses. Dinner will be provided. 

When: Tuesday, March 5, 6-8pm Where: OFC Office, 1385 Mission St., Ste. 340, San Francisco

Register: Part 2


Colors of our Family: LGBTQ Transracial Adoption Series

Adoptive parents are encouraged to attend all three workshops in the series.


March 14 – Examining White Privilege (Click Here to Register)


This  workshop, facilitated by Tarah Fleming, will create a positive learning  environment to guide  challenging conversations around issues of  cultural understanding &  racial justice.


March 21 – Adult Adoptee Panel – Part 1 (Click Here to Register)


This workshop/discussion group will push you to explore the sometimes  painful and challenging experiences lived experiences your child may encounter as a  transracial adoptee.  Explore issues of racial identity, racism, gender  and adoption in a safe space. Hear from and engage in discussion with a  panel of same-race, and transracially adopted adult experts. Please plan  to attend both sessions.  Facilitated by: Lisa Marie Rollins



March 28 – Adult Adoptee Panel – Part 2 (Click Here to Register)


This workshop/discussion group will continue the discussions on racial  identity, racism, gender and adoption from the previous week, focusing  on problem solving for your family. We will co-share knowledge with  other parents who have adopted children across race. Hear from and  engage in discussion with a panel of same-race, and transracially  adopted adult experts. Please plan to attend both sessions.  Facilitated  by: Lisa Marie Rollins


Programming for Kids – In conjunction with our adult workshops above, families are  encouraged to bring their children to participate in a special  child/youth arts and crafts program which will address identity  development, multiculturalism and community building in a fun and  interactive environment.


When: Thursdays, March 14, 21, 28, 6-8pm Where: OFC Office, 1385 Mission St., Ste. 340, San Francisco


Prospective Parents: Introduction to Conception Options


From Home Insemination & Home IUI to Clinical Options (IUI, IVF, Mini-IVF, IVF with Partner Eggs, Donated Embryos & Fertility Preservation) A Free “How-To” Seminar with Kristin Kali, LM, CPM of MAIA Midwifery & Fertility Services, Dr. Collin Smikle, Medical Director of Laurel Fertility Care, Attorney Deborah Wald, Esq. and Alice Ruby, MPH, MPPM,  Executive Director of The Sperm Bank of California


OPEN TO ALL PROSPECTIVE PARENTS & INTERESTED HEALTH PROVIDERS. Special focus on reproductive access to single parents by choice, LGBTQ families, families using frozen or fresh donor sperm, and others who may experience economic, social and legal barriers to reproductive care. 

When: Tuesday, March 12,

5:30-6pm Bring Your Own Dinner & Networking
6-8pm Seminar Where: SF LGBT Community Center, Ceremonial Room, 1800 Market St., San Francisco Register: Click here!

Spring Fling Dance


Our Family Coalition and the East Oakland Community Play Date present “Spring Fling Dance Party!” If the sun is shining we will be outdoors,  it it’s raining we will be indoors. Dance with your children to all  different types of music for all ages.


When: Saturday, March 16, 1-4pm Where: Sobrante Park at Sobrante Elementary School                                                 470 El Paseo Dr., Oakland

Register: Click Here!


A Celebration of the Life of Bayard Rustin
Join us for this special community celebration! Parents and adults are invited for a community film screening of “Brother Outsider” followed by a discussion. Children are invited to participate in a special children’s art and education program to learn about and celebrate Bayard Rustin, “the unknown hero” of the civil rights movement. 

When: Sunday, March 24, 3-5pm

Where: First Congregational Church of Oakland, 2501 Harrison St., Oakland

Register: Click Here!


Second Parent and Domestic Partner Adoption Workshop

Come to an interactive,  hands-on workshop with an expert attorney who will explain the  differences between domestic partner and second parent adoption,  describe the process, answer your questions, and then help you prepare  the paperwork for your adoption if appropriate.  If you’re not ready for  the adoption but you want information or have questions about the  process, feel free to come for the first part of the event. Facilitated  by Emily Doskow, Esq.


When: Tuesday, March 26, 6-8pm Where: Bananas, 5232 Claremont Ave., Oakland

Register: Click Here!




Join us for a warm and inspiring  celebration of Our Family Coalition’s work to create a more equitable  world for LGBTQ headed families. This exciting event will include  cocktails and wine, silent auction, and a delicious sit-down dinner. Thursday, April 11, 2013, from 6-9 pm at the InterContinental Hotel, 888 Howard St., San Francisco

Individual tickets are $150 to this adults only event with sponsorship opportunities starting at $250.

Ongoing Groups
Habitot Kids Painting

Mamas & Papas East Bay: Families with Children Ages 0-5
Expand your circle of LGBTQ parents and explore concerns and tips shared by all parents as well as those of special interest to our families. Help your kids build friendships with other children from LGBTQ families. Keep your infants with you while all other kids play in Habitot Children’s Museum. Dinner will be provided for children only. Suggested donation of $10 per adult, no one turned away for lack of funds.
Registration: Click Here!
When: Every 1st Wednesday, March 6, 5:30-7:30pm
Where: Habitot Children’s Museum, 2065 Kittredge St., Berkeley
QPlay: All Ages Daytime Drop in Playgroup


Home   during the day with the kids? Feeling a little isolated? Come to  San   Mateo and join other LGBTQ parents for an informal hour of grown up    conversation and playtime for the kids. Share your stories and browse    the shelves. Tea and snacks available.

Registration: Click Here! When: Every 1st Friday, April 5, 11am-12:30pm Where: Reach & Teach,                                                 178 South Blvd., San Mateo
Peninsula LGBTQ Parent Coffee Talk
Come join other LGBTQ parents and their children for a relaxing time sharing resources and getting to know one another.  Each month will have a topic to kick start the conversations.
Registration: E-mail shannon@ourfamily.org, or call (650) 798-7861 When: Every 2nd Sunday, March 10, 3-5pm Where: Backyard Coffee Co., 965 Brewster Ave., Redwood City
Mamas & Papas SF: Playgroup at Plaza Adelante
Come play and build community with us! A special collaboration with Good Samaritan Family Resource Center.
Registration: Click Here! When: Tuesday, March 12, 10am-12pm
Where: Plaza Adelante, 2301 Mission St., San Francisco
Prospective Parents Group

Instead  of our usual Prospective parent group this month, please attend the  “Introduction to Conception Options” workshop listed above.
Transgender Parents Group
Are you or your partner a transgender parent? Or thinking about  transbecoming a parent? The Transgender Parent Support Group is an  opportunity to connect with your peers and get mutual support.  The  group will meet every third Saturday of each month. The first half hour  will be spent socializing, with  the remaining time dedicated to group discussion. Drop-ins are welcome,  but ongoing attendance helps to establish group rapport.
Registration:Click Here!
When:  Every 3rd Saturday, March 16, 10am-12pm Where: SF LGBT Center, 1800 Market St., San Francisco
Mamas & Papas With Children 7-12 (Revamped Group!)
OFC  and Eureka Valley Recreation Center are partnering up to provide an  interactive and fun program for kids of LGBTQ Parents ages 7-12. The  parents can drop off their kids at EVRC where staff from both  organizations will do some ice breakers, fun games, and rec sports.  Parents are encouraged to head to a nearby cafe to socialize, catch up, and  discuss anything that is on their minds. Child care for children ages 6  and under will be provided at Eureka Valley Recreation Center by the SF  LGBT Community Center Kid Space staff. Come expand your circle of LGBTQ  Parents and help your kids build friendships with other children with  LGBTQ Families.
Registration: Click Here! When: Every 3rd Wednesday, March 20, 6-7:30pm Where: Eureka Valley Recreation Center, 100 Collingwood St., San Francisco
Mamas & Papas SF: Families with Children Ages 0-5
New families are always welcome! Expand your circle of LGBTQ parents and explore concerns and tips shared by all parents as well as those of special interest to our families. Help your kids build friendships with other children from LGBTQ families.
Registration: Click Here!
When: Every 4th Saturday, March 23, 10-11:30am
Where: SF LGBT Community Center, 1800 Market St., San Francisco

Community Events
Wonderful Town Musical
YMTC presents Wonderful Town a delicious and delightful romp through 1930s-era Greenwich Village. Based on Fields and Chodorov’s 1940 play My Sister Eileen, the musical follows the story of two sisters who have left their hometown of Columbus, Ohio, and are trying to make it on their own in New York.  Come have fun with us again at this hilarious and delightful musical for the whole family! $26 – general, $18 – senior (65 and over), $13 – student (22 and under)
When: March 1, 2, 8 & 9 at 7:30pm, March 3 & 10 at 2:00pm Where:  Julia Morgan Center for the Arts, 2640 College Avenue, Berkeley Purchase Tickets: 1-800-838-3006 or click here!
2nd Annual SFUSD LGBT Families Dinner

Join the SFUSD Student, Family, and Community Support Department and the Office of Family and Community Engagement at our 2nd annual Families Dinner for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender families in the district. All students and families are welcome at this event!

When: Thursday, March 7, 5:30-7:30pm Where: Alvarado Elementary School, 625 Douglass St., San Francisco RSVP is necessary by March 1, 2013. Register: Click Here! or call Ilsa Bertolini, 242-2615 to confirm the number of adults and children attending.
Adoption: A Lifelong Journey Conference
When an adoption takes place it affects a wide reaching collection of family members and loved ones. We will explore ways to honor individuals and the dynamic role each person plays in the lives of adopted children. In examining the lifelong journey of adoption we can recognize the joy and connection as well as the more difficult emotions of grief and/or loss. By coming together with this perspective, we can move forward to strengthen identity and self-esteem in the adopted child and each other.
OFC’s Tarah Fleming and Renata Moreira will be leading a workshop title “LGBTQ Adoptive Parenting: Navigating Family Acceptance” in the afternoon session. Come learn how to advocate for your adoptive children in schools and other community environments. Presenters will address effective and developmentally appropriate ways to handle bigotry and bullying, including questions from outsiders, your adopted children, and their friends. Workshop will provide you with tools to support kids who may be struggling with other identity issues as well.
When: Saturday, March 9, 8:30am-5pm Where: Head Royce School Campus, 4315 Lincoln Avenue, Oakland Register: Click Here!
“Cracking the Codes” Youth Film/Dialogue Event: with Filmmaker Shakti Butler and Spoken Word Artists Jelal Huyler & Rhummanee Hang
An afternoon of spoken word, film and dialogue that unpacks the causes  and consequences of systemic inequity.  Designed to support our next  generation of community leaders to be part of the movement for healing  and change.
When: Saturday March 9, 1-4pm Where: Eastside Arts Alliance, 277 International Blvd., Oakland More Info: Click Here!
Kinderfolkz – Sing A Song, Sing a Long
When: Saturday, March 9, 11am – 1pm Where: New Parkway Theater, 474 24th St., Oakland More Info: Click Here!
A Simple Revolution Book Launch Party & Reading
To celebrate the official launch of A Simple Revolution: The Making of an Activist Poet, we invite you to join us for a night of community, refreshments, and a live reading by Judy Grahn herself.
A Simple Revolution: The Making of an Activist Poet is a compelling memoir about Judy Grahn’s life in the Bay Area during the lesbian movement in the 60s and ’70s.The “simple” revolution she recounts involved not just the formation of new institutions (the Women’s Press Collective, Oakland Feminist Women’s Health Center, A Woman’s Place Bookstore), but the creation of whole new ways of living, including collective feminist households that cut through the political and social isolation of women. Presented in A Simple Revolution is a historical account of both the Bay Area and of the gay liberation movement never wholly told from such a perspective – that of a working class white lesbian on the front lines of social change.
When: Thursday, March 14, 6:30pm Where: Modern Times Bookstore Collective, 2919 24th St., San Francisco
ODC/Dance Downtown 2013 – LGBT Night
ODC/Dance, San Francisco’s very own world class contemporary dance  company, performs all over the world, but for two weeks only will offer  its trademark smart, exuberant, fearless dance works at Yerba Buena  Center for the Arts for its 42nd annual home season. At LGBT Night, mix  and mingle with fellow dance fans at an exclusive pre-show reception  with hosted bar then be transported by a program featuring  2012’s smash  hits Breathing Underwater and Cut-Out Guy alongside the world premiere  of Lifesaving Maneuvers. RSVP required for pre-party entry.
When: Friday, March 22, Pre-Party 6:30pm, Performances at 8pm Where: Yerba Buena Center for the Arts Tickets: $20-$80, Special Offer! 20% off all tickets on 3/22 (promo code LGBT) Buy Online Now or call 415-978-ARTS

“Castro Dads”: A Group for Gay Dads in the SF Bay Area
Our Family Coalition is supporting a social networking group for gay dads (and gay men thinking/wanting to become a dad) in and around San Francisco.
When: Last Tuesday of the month, 5:30-7:30pm
Where: Squat and Gobble, 3600 16th St., San Francisco

Community Announcements

Lesbian/Bisexual Women Paid Focus Group Lyon-Martin Health Services has partnered with RTI, International for a project titled WHAM (Women’s Health And Mindfulness). WHAM is community-based two-part intervention to improve the health of lesbian and bisexual women of size over 40. WHAM is currently looking for women to participate in focus groups to help give input on issues related to lesbian and bisexual issues, community and research participation. To participate in the focus group (and intervention) you need to:     *    Self-identify as a lesbian or bisexual woman.     *    Be age 40 or older.     *    Feel that you might be at risk for weight-related problems. This is a paid focus group study. A total of 4 focus groups will be held at Lyon-Martin Health Services. For more information contact: Natalie Ingraham, Project Coordinator at (415) 901-7131 or natalie@lyon-martin.org.


Interview Opportunities for Parent Story Blog


If you are a parent, http://parentstoriesinterviews.blogspot.com/ would like to interview you for a blog post.  Interviews are conducted  via I.M. chat and usually take approximately an hour.  If you would like  to be interviewed, please email RightBrainParenting@gmail. com with times that work for you.



In the News & Media
Scores Of Republicans Sign Legal Brief Supporting Gay Marriage Ahead Of Supreme Court Arguments: At least 75 top Republicans have signed a legal brief to be submitted to the Supreme Court this week, arguing that gay marriage is a constitutional right, according to The New York Times, which got a copy of the document. The court is preparing to take on the subject of gay marriage late next month, when it will hear oral arguments on the constitutionality of California’s gay marriage ban, Proposition 8, and the Defense of Marriage Act. It is expected to render a decision in early summer.
Gay Will Never Be the New Black – What James Baldwin Taught Me About My White Privilege: I’d never even heard the name James Baldwin until my first semester at Union Theological Seminary. As a white, middle-class American, I was the product of a predominantly white, middle-class education that didn’t assign The Fire Next Time and Giovanni’s Room, two of Baldwin’s masterpieces, alongside 1984 and The Scarlet Letter. It wasn’t until I moved to New York and took a class on Baldwin’s life and writings that I was transformed by the black, same-gender-loving, 20th-century author’s honesty and candor.
Questioning the Idea of ‘Gay’ Families and ‘Straight’ Families: But at the same time, I chafe at “families, gay and straight.” What is a gay family? For that matter, what is a straight family? Is your family gay or straight? How do you determine this?
Love is what makes a family: Just last week, Puerto Rico’s Supreme Court upheld a law that prohibits joint adoption by gay couples. In a 5-4 decision, the court said a woman could not adopt a 12-year-old girl whom her longtime partner conceived through in vitro fertilization. In the majority opinion the court stated a family composed of a mother and father is best for a child’s “dignity, stability and well-being.
Kansas Supreme Court rules non-biological mother has parenting rights: The Kansas Supreme Court on Friday ruled that when same-sex couples have children together, both parents can be fully recognized as co-parents under Kansas state law.
Six million American children and adults have an LGBT parent: An estimated 37 percent of LGBT Americans have had a child, meaning as many as six million American children and adults have an LGBT parent, according to findings from a national study released Wednesday by Williams Institute Distinguished Scholar, Gary J. Gates.
Marriage equality bill unveiled at Minnesota state capitol: Lawmakers formally launched a long-anticipated effort Wednesday to legalize gay marriage in Minnesota by summer, and gay couples and their small children crowded the kickoff news conference – an image meant to show family diversity already exists in the state.
Non-discrimination laws will improve the lives of transgender Marylanders – and everyone else: The Fairness For All Marylanders Act, a bill that would extend non-discrimination protections to transgender people in Maryland, was heard in a state Senate committee on Tuesday.
German court expands adoption rights of gay couples: Germany’s constitutional court handed same-sex couples a victory on Tuesday by ruling that gay people should be allowed to adopt a child already adopted by their partner. The court said an existing ban on the practice – known as successive adoption – violated the principle of equal treatment of people regardless of their sexual orientation.
The Rainbow Summits Project – Why I’m Going to the Top of the World for LGBTQ Youth: When I was a junior in high school, one of my friends and classmates committed suicide. This tragedy devastated me. I had never known anyone who’d taken their own life, and I was shocked to learn that suicide is the third leading cause of death for 15- to 24-year-olds. So it was in a state of grief that I learned shortly thereafter of the death of Tyler Clementi who, like me, was a gay teenager from New Jersey who had been bullied.
Students’ Same-Sex Mock Wedding Raises Some Hackles: Parents at Monday’s Mountain View-Los Altos board meeting expressed concerns over an unusual event scheduled to be held on Valentine’s Day at Mountain View High School. The Queer-Straight Alliance, an MVHS club, announced plans to hold a “Mock Wedding” on Feb. 14 out on the school’s quad.
Corporate Call for Change in Gay Marriage Case: Arguing that the federal Defense of Marriage Act imposes serious administrative and financial costs on their operations, some of the nation’s largest companies filed a supporting brief with the Supreme Court on Wednesday, urging it to overturn a section of the act that denies federal benefits and recognition to same-sex couples.
Fraternity Raises Funds for Brother’s Transgender Surgery: A fraternity at Emerson College in Boston is raising funds to help one of their members pay for transgender surgery procedure that his insurance company has refused to pay for.
Parents in China Call for Same-Sex Marriage to be Legalized: More than 100 parents with children who are gay or lesbian have written to the National People’s Congress calling for the legalization of same-sex marriage. “We’re appealing to NPC deputies to take notice of calls from 120 million parents of gays and lesbians for a revision of the Marriage Law in order to grant our children equal rights to marriage,” they said in an open letter.
Transgender Woman to Stand for Election in Pakistan: A hijra, or transgender woman, is standing for election in Pakistan and campaigning for equal rights. ‘It is not our destiny to merely dance for others and hold begging bowls. We have a life to live,’ said Sanam Fakir, electoral candidate in the central Pakistan town of Sukkur, to AFP.
Wolverine and Hercules Share Kiss in Latest X-Men Issue: X-Treme X-Men, the Marvel comic featuring well-known alternate versions of iconic characters from parallel dimensions, had implied for some time that the bisexual demigod Hercules and James “Logan” Howlett, the Wolverine of another universe, once had a romantic relationship.

Our Family Coalition promotes the equality and well-being  of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer families with  children. We foster community leadership in advocacy efforts that  promote social justice. 

Headquarters: 1385 Mission St., Ste. 340, San Francisco, CA 94103

East Bay Office: 401 Grand Ave., Ste. 400, Oakland, CA 94610

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