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In this Issue:
Staff Snippet: OFC on Swirl Radio!
Breakthrough2Love Campaign
Federal Taxes for Domestic Partners
Financial Literacy for LGBTQ Families
It Takes 3 to Tango: A Seminar for Gay Couples & Future Dads
Youth Leadership and Empowerment Series
All You Can Eat Pancake Breakfast Fundraiser
Colors of our Family
Introduction to Conception Options
Spring Fling Dance
Save the Date & Support Night Out 2013!
Ongoing Groups
Community Events
Community Announcements
In the News & Media

Staff Snippet: OFC & LGBTQ Family Building on Swirl Radio!
Dear Families & Supporters,
Our Family Coalition has partnered up with Swirl Radio for a special LGBTQ Family Building segment every other Saturday hosted by OFC’s very own Judy Appel!
Check out the recording by clicking this link. In the last uploaded recorded on February 2nd, we talked to Johnny Symon, the filmmaker of Daddy & Papa.  Stay tuned for much, much more!
We also have a special collaborative event coming up, a seminar for Gay Couples & Future Dads.  Click here or scroll down for more information.
Sincerely, Our Family Coalition Staff

Breakthrough2Love Campaign




Our Breakthrough coalition partners, The Coalition of Welcoming Congregations of the Bay Area, The Umoja ProjectCalifornia Faith for Equality, and Progressive Christians Uniting, have  teamed up to encourage local congregations and organizations to speak  out for LGBT individuals, couples, and families beginning the weekend of Valentine’s  Day (Feb 15-17) through the end of Pride month (June 30).


By joining the Breakthrough2Love campaign, religious and diverse spiritual communities  will publicly demonstrate their support for LGBT inclusion and equality.  We encourage you to check out for inspiring resources and additional details. We’re celebrating a new era of powerful partnerships with communities of faith!


Federal Taxes for Domestic Partners


Tax Scrabble Tiles There was a major change in 2010 to how the IRS now treats community property of California state-registered domestic partners (RDPs), which will affect same-sex married couples as well. The changes will have a major effect on your federal income taxes, as well as your estate planning. This workshop will help you make sense of the changes, including retroactively in some cases. Facilitated by Alma Soongi Beck, Esq., of The Beck Law Group, P.C. and Chris Kollaja, CPA, of A.L. Nella & Co. 

When: Thurssday, February 21, 6-8pm Where: Bananas, 5232 Claremont Ave., Oakland

Register: Click Here!

Financial Literacy for LGBTQ Families


Two nights of games and activities for the whole family. Have fun while learning about saving, setting financial goals, and managing monthly expenses. Dinner will be provided. 

When: Tuesday, February 26 & March 5, 6-8pm Where: OFC Office, 1385 Mission St., Ste. 340, San Francisco

Register: Part 1Part 2


It Takes 3 to Tango: A Seminar for Gay Couples & Future Dadsgaydads


Pacific Fertility Center (PFC), in partnership with Swirl Radio, is proud to offer an educational seminar specifically designed to educate men of the LGBT community about fertility options and growing their family.
The seminar will be hosted by a panel of fertility specialists, with Special Guest, Bevan Dufty, HOPE – Housing Opportunity, Partnerships and Engagement Office of Mayor Edwin M. Lee. The seminar is an opportunity to learn about medical options and legal issues surrounding fertility as well as psycho-social issue considerations for gay men wanting to build families using Advanced Reproduction Technology.
When: Thursday, February 28, 6-8:30pm Where: Pacific Fertility Center’s Education Center, 55 Francisco St., 5th Floor, San Francisco Register: Click Here! 

Youth Leadership and Empowerment


This practical skill building series will bring youth together in a  unique space where they can connect, grow as individuals, and have fun.  Youth ages 7-11 will learn what it means to be assertive when faced with  bullying, find out what being an ally means, and be able to build a  toolbox of skills to take home with them. Whether it’s finding an  expressive voice, moving around to keep energized, or using the art of  play, the youth involved are sure to be both active and engaged!  Recommended for ages 7-11.  Facilitated by Mark Yanez.Attendees are encouraged to attend all three workshops in the series.


When: Sunday, March 3, 10 & 17, 3-5pm Where: OFC Office, 1385 Mission St., Ste. 340, San Francisco

Register: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3


All You Can Eat Pancake Breakfast Fundraiser

Our lovely friends at Sweet Inspirations Bakery Cafe are hosting 2 pancake breakfasts to support OFC!  You’ll get a serving of ham, sausage, or bacon in addition to all you can eat pancakes.  The price is $10 for adults and $6 for kids.  Come enjoy a delicious breakfast, good company, and support OFC’s work.When: Sunday, March 3 & 10, 8am-1pm Where: Sweet Inspirations Bakery Cafe, 2239 Market Street, San Francisco


Colors of our Family – ?


This workshop facilitated by Tarah Fleming, will create a positive learning environment to guide  challenging conversations around issues of cultural understanding &  racial justice.


In conjunction with our adult workshops below, families are  encouraged to bring their children to participate in a special  child/youth arts and crafts program which will address identity  development, multiculturalism and community building in a fun and  interactive environment.


Adoptive parents are encouraged to attend all three workshops in the series.


When: Thursday, March 14, 6-8pm Where: OFC Office, 1385 Mission St., Ste. 340, San Francisco

Register: Click Here!


Introduction to Conception Options


For individuals and families to learn more about fertility and family building options. Kristin Kali, LM, CPM will address home insemination tips and techniques, considerations for fresh vs. frozen sperm, and Intrauterine Insemination (IUI) at home.  Dr. Collin Smikle will discuss options available in the clinic setting including what to expect with IUI, mini-IVF, In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) and IVF with partner or donor eggs. Deborah Wald, Esq. will address legal updates and considerations for family building. We will have Q&A time discuss some of the medical, financial, emotional and legal questions that face a variety of family formations including LGBTQI couples & single parents by choice  in the family building journey.
When: Tuesday, March 12, 6-8pm Where: SF LGBT Community Center, Ceremonial Room, 1800 Market St., San Francisco Register: Click here! (scroll down to the bottom)

Spring Fling Dance


Our Family Coalition and the East Oakland Community Play Date presents  “Spring Fling Dance Party!” If the sun is shining we will be outdoors,  it it’s raining we will be indoors. Dance with your children to all  different types of music for all ages.

When: Saturday, March 16, 1-4pm Where: Sobrante Park at Sobrante Elementary School                                                 470 El Paseo Dr., Oakland

Register: Click Here!




Join us for a warm and inspiring  celebration of Our Family Coalition’s work to create a more equitable  world for LGBTQ headed families. This exciting event will include  cocktails and wine, silent auction, and a delicious sit-down dinner. Thursday, April 11, 2013, from 6-9 pm at the InterContinental Hotel, 888 Howard St., San Francisco

Individual tickets are $150 to this adults only event with sponsorship opportunities starting at $250.

Ongoing Groups
Habitot Kids PaintingMamas & Papas East Bay: Families with Children Ages 0-5
Expand your circle of LGBTQ parents and explore concerns and tips shared by all parents as well as those of special interest to our families. Help your kids build friendships with other children from LGBTQ families. Mamas & Papas is a project of OFC. Keep your infants with you while all other kids play in Habitot Children’s Museum. Dinner will be provided for children only. Suggested donation of $10 per adult, no one turned away for lack of funds.

Registration: Click Here!

When: Every 1st Wednesday, February 6, 5:30-7:30pm Where: Habitot Children’s Museum, 2065 Kittredge St., Berkeley
Mamas & Papas SF: Families with Children Ages 0-5 New families are always welcome! Expand your circle of LGBTQ parents and explore concerns and tips shared by all parents as well as those of special interest to our families. Help your kids build friendships with other children from LGBTQ families. Registration: Click Here!

When: Every 4th Saturday, February 23, 10-11:30am

Where: SF LGBT Community Center, 1800 Market St., San Francisco

Mamas & Papas With Children 7-12 (Revamped Group!)
OFC and Eureka Valley Recreation Center are partnering up to provide an interactive and fun program for kids of LGBTQ Parents ages 7-12. The parents can drop off their kids at EVRC where staff from both organizations will do some ice breakers, fun games, and rec sports. Parents are encouraged head to a nearby cafe to socialize, catch up, and discuss anything that is on their minds. Child care for children ages 6 and under will be provided at Eureka Valley Recreation Center by the SF LGBT Community Center Kid Space staff. Come expand your circle of LGBTQ Parents and help your kids build friendships with other children with LGBTQ Families.
Registration: Click Here! When: Every 3rd Wednesday, February 20, 6-7:30pm Where: Eureka Valley Recreation Center, 100 Collingwood St, San Francisco, CA  94114
QPlay: All Ages Daytime Drop in PlaygroupHome during the day with the kids? Feeling a little isolated? Come to  San Mateo and join other LGBTQ parents for an informal hour of grown up  conversation and playtime for the kids. Share your stories and browse  the shelves. Tea and snacks available.

Registration:  Click Here! When: Every 2nd Tuesday, March 12, 11am-12pm Where: Reach & Teach,                                                 178 South Blvd., San Mateo

Prospective Parents Group
Instead of our usual Prospective parent group this month, please attend the “Introduction to Conception Options” workshop listed above.

Transgender Parent Grouptrans

Are you or your partner a transgender parent? Or thinking about becoming a parent? The Transgender Parent Support Group is an opportunity to connect with your peers and get mutual support.  The group will meet every third Saturday of each month. The first half hour will be spent socializing, with the remaining time dedicated to group discussion. Drop-ins are welcome, but ongoing attendance helps to establish group rapport.
Registration: Click Here!

When:  Every 3rd Saturday, February 16, 10am-12pm Where: SF LGBT Center, 1800 Market St., San Francisco

Community Events
LGBT Family Weekend at YMCA Camp Campbell
Share a weekend of wonder with your child, and build a stronger relationship at the same time. Whether it’s making s’mores by the campfire or trying new activities together, you and your child will play, laugh, and grow closer. Comfortable cabins, healthy food, and a chance to share a weekend with no outside interruptions awaits you and your child in the redwoods. Register your family and let us take care of the rest.
When: Friday-Sunday, February 22-24 Where: YMCA Camp Campbell, 16275 Highway 9, Boulder Creek Register: Click Here!
Wonderful Town Musical
YMTC presents Wonderful Town a delicious and delightful romp through 1930s-era Greenwich Village. Based on Fields and Chodorov’s 1940 play My Sister Eileen, the musical follows the story of two sisters who have left their hometown of Columbus, Ohio, and are trying to make it on their own in New York.  Come have fun with us again at this hilarious and delightful musical for the whole family! $26 – general, $18 – senior (65 and over), $13 – student (22 and under)
When: March 1, 2, 8 & 9 at 7:30pm, March 3 & 10 at 2:00pm Where:  Julia Morgan Center for the Arts, 2640 College Avenue, Berkeley Purchase Tickets: 1-800-838-3006 or 2nd Annual SFUSD – Families Dinner for LGBT Families
Join the SFUSD Student, Family, and Community Support Department and the Office of Family and Community Engagement at our 2nd annual Families Dinner for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender families in the district. All students and families are welcome at this event!
When: Thursday, March 7, 5:30-7:30p.m. Where: Alvarado Elementary School, 625 Douglass St., San Francisco RSVP is necessary by March 1, 2013. Visit or call Ilsa Bertolini, 242-2615 to confirm the number of adults and children attending.
Adoption: A Lifelong Journey Conference
When an adoption takes place it affects a wide reaching collection of family members and loved ones. We will explore ways to honor individuals and the dynamic role each person plays in the lives of adopted children. In examining the lifelong journey of adoption we can recognize the joy and connection as well as the more difficult emotions of grief and/or loss. By coming together with this perspective, we can move forward to strengthen identity and self- esteem in the adopted child and each other.
OFC’s Tarah Fleming and Renata Moreira will be leading a workshop title “LGBTQ Adoptive Parenting: Navigating Family Acceptance” in the afternoon session. Come learn how to advocate for your adoptive children in schools and other community environments. Presenters will address effective and developmentally appropriate ways to handle bigotry and bullying, including questions from outsiders, your adopted children, and their friends. Workshop will provide you with tools to support kids who may be struggling with other identity issues as well.
When: Saturday, March 9, 8:30am-5pm Where: Head Royce School Campus, 4315 Licoln Avenue, Oakland Register:
A Simple Revolution Book Launch Party & Reading
To celebrate the official launch of A Simple Revolution: The Making of an Activist Poet, we invite you to join us for a night of community, refreshments, and a live reading by Judy herself.
A Simple Revolution: The Making of an Activist Poet is a compelling memoir about Judy Grahn’s life in the Bay Area during the lesbian movement in the 60s and 70s.The “simple” revolution she recounts involved not just the formation of new institutions (the Women’s Press Collective, Oakland Feminist Women’s Health Center, A Woman’s Place Bookstore), but the creation of whole new ways of living, including collective feminist households that cut through the political and social isolation of women. Presented in A Simple Revolution is a historical account of both the Bay Area and of the gay liberation movement never wholly told from such a perspective – that of a working class white lesbian on the front lines of social change.
When: Thursday, March 14, 6:30pm Where: Modern Times Bookstore Collective, 2919 24th St., San Francisco
“Castro Dads”: A Group for Gay Dads in the SF Bay Area
Our Family Coalition is supporting a social networking group for gay dads (and gay men thinking/wanting to become a dad) in and around San Francisco.
When: Last Tuesday of the month, 5:30-7:30pm
Where: Squat and Gobble, 3600 16th St., San Francisco

Community Announcements
Seeking LGBTQ Parents to Speak on Panel for Early Childhood Students
My name is Tracy Burt and I have been teaching the Supporting LGBT  Families course at CCSF since we developed it in 2003. It has been a  wonderful journey to be part of creating the course, which was  originally envisioned by the LGBT-ECE Initiative in San Francisco (Judy Appel of OFC was a part of that initiative). We work to build cultural competence,  unlearn biases and take action in our personal and professional lives to  create safety and celebration of diverse LGBT families. The most powerful part of our course in the past has pretty much  always been the LGBT parent panel. I have a few panelists I usually ask,  but I didn’t teach the course for a couple of years and would love to  try to find more potential panelists. We do our best to have diversity  in terms of gender, ethnicity, family makeup, family story, etc. We are looking at Thursday, February 21st as our panel date this  semester from 6:15 to 7:45. Usually we ask each parent to introduce his  or her self and then open up for questions. I will share panelist questions with folks ahead of time to help them prepare as well.
Please contact Tracy at or by calling 415-312-9686.

In the News & Media
As a gay family formed, two little best friends became brothers: Some of those fighting marriage equality these days want you to believe that there is only a single possible right way to create a “real” family. That way, they suggest, is by means of unprotected, unplanned, procreative sex. Or, as Nan Hunter observes, “accidental procreation,” which then warrants 1500 protections and benefits by means of a “bribe (for) heterosexuals ” to get married. And only the biologically created family deserves marriage, they argue, and all the rewards to stay together. The notion is insulting and absurd, not only for same sex coupled families, but for opposite sex families as well. Real families come together in a variety of ways, the best of which is when all the members love each other and deeply desire a lifetime bond.
Traditional Families-Who Also Happen To Be Gay: Is it more difficult to discriminate against someone when you’re forced to really see them. That’s what Alix Smith is hoping, with her project “States of Union,” a six-year series that focuses on photographing gay families through traditional portraiture. “Initially, I conceived of “States of Union” as a way to show America who and what they were voting against,” Smith explained via email. “I felt the most effective way to change people’s perception was through the power of images. I wanted those who condemn legal recognition of loving families to see the faces of those people they would deny.”
Sen. Patrick Leahy bill gives gay couples same immigration rights as heterosexual couples: Vermont Democrat Sen. Patrick Leahy said he will introduce on Wednesday a bill that extends immigration benefits to same-sex married couples. Currently, the federal government does not recognize gay marriages, but the U.S. Justice Department has backed off defending Defense of Marriage Act cases, The Associated Press reported. DOMA defines legal marriage as between a man and a woman.
Gay  And Lesbian Adoptions Are The New Norm In Quebec: “I would  like to have  a mother, but I wouldn’t want to lose my two dads,” says  Frida, a  radiant six-year-old Canadian girl unaware of the  international  controversy raging over gay parenting rights. In Britain  and France the  debate over gay marriage and parenting has provoked  heated debate. But  in Canada, a nation born out of their new world  colonies, Frida’s  situation is no longer very unusual.
For  gay and lesbian parents, unique challenges: When Melissa McHenry wanted  to find a Methodist church in Rochester for her family, she did what  any modern mom would do – she turned to the Internet.  But it wasn’t as  simple as pulling up a map to find the closest church to her Brighton  home. She searched for Methodist churches that were gay-friendly, then  scanned a few church’s websites for red flags. When she found one that  looked promising, she emailed the pastor explaining the makeup of her  family – McHenry and her partner have two girls – before deciding to  attend.
France:  Assembly Passes Gay Marriage Bill: The lower house of Parliament, after  more than 100 hours of debate, approved a law on Tuesday that would  legalize same-sex marriage and give the same rights to all married  couples to adopt children. The bill, promoted by President François  Hollande and his Socialist Party, which controls the legislature, passed  by 329 to 229 in the National Assembly, despite loud opposition from  religious leaders and from the center-right. The bill will come before  the Senate on April 2, where it is also expected to pass.
Video- Celebrating Black History: There  are pioneers who have paved the way and people who are making it  happen. For the month of February we are recognizing all of those who  have sacificed and continue to make things happen.
Huff  Post Video Segment – Brother Outsider: Bayard Rustin organized the  March On Washington with MLK…and he was openly gay. We’ll discuss the  complex history between the Civil Rights & LGBTQ movements.
16 Must-See Black LGBT Films: In 1989, Donna Deitch directed the made for TV movie “The Women of Brewster Place” starring and produced by Oprah Winfrey, which was based on Gloria Naylor’s 1982 novel of the same name. The film featured an all-star cast and included two lesbian characters played by Lonette McKee (Lorraine) and Paula Kelly (Theresa). The couple flees their middle-class suburban neighborhood due to their sexuality and makes Brewster Place their new home.
Colorful Tet parade leaves gays on sidelines: Where there were dark clouds there  were also rainbows, lots of them, in the hands of members of a lesbian,  gay, bisexual and transgender group and their supporters. They waved  tiny flags and large flags and held up large metal hearts each a bright  red, orange, yellow, green, blue and purple on the sidelines of the  annual Tet parade held Sunday morning in Westminster’s Little Saigon  neighborhood to celebrate the Vietnamese new year.
Sullivan High School’s Students, Staff Distance Themselves From Anti-Gay Prom Plan Frenzy: Students and staff at an Indiana-based high school are trying to quickly distance themselves from the international media frenzy over one local group’s plea for an “traditional” prom that would ban gay teens. In an interview with local NBC affiliate WTWO, Sullivan High School Principal David Springer clarified that officials had no involvement with the group calling for the gay-free prom and that all students will be welcome at the school-officiated event in May.
Occupy’s 99 percent get children’s book: ‘A is for Activist’: Forget “Green Eggs and Ham” or “Curious George,” Innosanto Nagara has written a book for your preschooler to become a union activist. Mr. Nagara, a social justice activist from Oakland, Calif., titled his new book, “A is for Activist,” and it is directed toward toddlers “of the 99 percent,” he said in an interview with YES! Magazine. “It’s pretty awesome to hear a three-year-old saying ‘union power,'” he said.
An Abominable Crime – Anti Gay Violence in Jamaica: AN ABOMINABLE CRIME is a documentary that explores the culture of homophobia in Jamaica through the eyes of two gay Jamaicans who are forced to chose between their homeland and their lives — after their sexual orientations are exposed…
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